Younger Women Playing Around Too Long To Find Mates?
As young women have grown more successful in higher education and in job markets, they have felt less need for a man to provide them with financial support. Consequently, many career women feel free to sample the many delights of sexual free agency for as long as they can -- always imagining that they will have plenty of time to settle down and have children. But there can be complications to that imagined future . . .
Researchers found that since women in the 18- to 23-year-old group feel they don't need men for financial dependence, many of them feel they can play around with multiple partners without consequence, and that the early 20s isn't the time to have a serious relationship. But eventually, they do come to want a real, lasting relationship. The problem is that there will still be women who will have sex readily without commitment, and since men know this, fewer of them are willing to [commit].
"Women have plenty of freedom, but freedom does not translate easily into getting what you want," Regnerus said.
The wide availability of pornography has also influenced the dynamics of relations between men and women, Regnerus said. A segment of 20-something men are content to have their sexual experiences by themselves, removing them from the pool of available partners. That means high-quality men - likely those who want monogamous, committed relationships - are still eligible for dating, but the overall dating pool has shrunk, meaning some women will be left unsatisfactorily single. _CNN
A woman's sex life may begin in her teens, and continue for as long as she can find willing partners. But as a woman ages, she is competing against women who are younger and more desirable. Likewise, as a woman ages, the number of successful, attractive, unattached males available to her shrinks rapidly -- while ever-younger batches of attractive women continue to burst onto the scene, ready to play.
While young women's educational and career opportunities have skyrocketed over the past two decades, their opportunities for stable, long-term relationships have declined, according to new research from sociologists at The University of Texas at Austin.
In their new book "Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate and Think About Marrying," (Oxford, 2011) researchers Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker detail the sexual attitudes, behaviors and experiences of Americans between the ages of 18 and 23. The research goes beyond the clichés about salaciousness within the largely white Greek system to provide a nuanced view of the experiences of a much wider swath of young adults.
"Hooking up gets all the attention but most sex occurs in relationships," says Regnerus. _UTexas
A further problem complicating the dreams of a woman "having it all," is that her fertility tends to decrease rapidly after the age of 35. While there are plenty of examples of women who successfully give birth to healthy infants in their mid and late 40s, these examples are memorable for the simple reason that they are so unusual.
A woman would be foolish to bet her future happiness on the chance that she is one of the few women whose fertility will remain high up to age 50. Most women choose not to think about the problem very often.
It is quite true that most modern young women are far too immature to choose a mate wisely, or to be a wise mother to children. And yet there is something compelling about the fact of intense love, and the reality of impending childbirth, which can force rapid maturation of formerly immature psyches. Physiologic changes can bring about psychological changes, which can make all the difference in outlook -- and capacity to care for others above one's self.
If the modern trend toward larger numbers of male Peter Pans and female Cinderellas continues, the demographic situation in the western world will become quite dire.