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27 September 2011

The Age of Easy Women

Marriage and family have been falling out of favour for several decades, for a large number of reasons. For one thing, men have always been "easy" -- quick to jump in the sack at every opportunity. Women have been traditionally more hesitant, more demanding of proof of commitment from the man, before giving up the keys to the keep. But that female reluctance to surrender to every cad and rogue who comes along, seems to have fallen by the way. We appear to be living in the age of easy women.
The issue is partly one of supply and demand, and it begins at US colleges, where 57% of students are women. With such an imbalanced sex ratio, women are using hookups to compete with other women for men’s affections. Once they get out of school, the pool of successful, educated men also is imbalanced, and the bed-hopping continues.

Regnerus likens the price of sex to the housing market. Too many foreclosures in one community, and the price of neighboring homes start to plummet. This is why single women in New York sometimes feel as though sex on the first date is a given: According to the market, it is.

“Every sex act is part of a ‘pricing’ of sex for subsequent relationships,” Regnerus said. “If sex has been very easy to get for a particular young man for many years and over the course of multiple relationships, what would eventually prompt him to pay a lot for it in the future -- that is, committing to marry?” _NYP


It is becoming harder for women to get men to fall in love with them, when the path to love is being short-circuited so quickly by easy sex. Many man cannot seem to get beyond the stage of early sex to the more complex stage of "love."
So, what can women do to return the balance of sexual power in their favor? Stop putting out, experts say. If women collectively decided to cross their legs, the price of sex would soar and women would regain control of the market. Like a whoopie cartel.

Women in less egalitarian countries do tend to restrict sex as a means of keeping the cost high. This makes sense when women have no access to education and employment. But in the US, it would take a major cultural movement for women to convince each other to say no to nookie.

“Let’s be realistic: It’s not going to happen here,” Regnerus says. “Women don’t really need men and marriage -- economically, socially, and culturally -- like they once did. What I hear in interviews with women is plenty of complaining about men or about the dating scene, but their annoyance is seldom directed at other women.” _NYP
On the other hand, perhaps the belief that women do not need men and a committed relationship, is as much a superficial delusion as the delusion that a lot of easy sex will bring long term happiness. Perhaps young women have been led down a rocky, arid path that leads to childlessness and a long, loveless middle age and senescence? We can always hope that it will not lead to that.

Al Fin comments: Children have been increasingly sheltered from risk and responsibility, as the number of children in each family has shrunk. Parents now have "trophy children" -- perhaps only one child, or two at most. These children are pampered and sheltered, made to feel special, without being given the competencies which would truly make them special. Their self-esteem is often so hugely dependent on external reinforcements that it requires constant boosting from the outside.

Entire generations of Peter Pans and Cinderellas have danced around issues of life, love, responsibility, and commitment, without actually understanding the larger stage that they occupy. Consequently, demographic changes in the western world are bringing things to a crisis point.

But as you can see from the piece above, young people have not learned anything from the monumental changes that have been going on around them. So they will be unprepared when the larger shocks of destructive debt and demographic decline truly rock their worlds.

What a downer. Pass the margueritas -- or the margaritas, if you must!.

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07 September 2011

Is the Female Orgasm an Eternal Mystery?

It is difficult to ask Freud's question, "What does a woman want?," while looking at the image above. It is intuitively obvious that one is looking at one of the things that a woman wants, sexual pleasure. But it tends to aggravate scientists of all stripes that they do not fully understand this element of female want: the orgasm.
“The evolutionary basis of human female orgasm has been subject to furious scientific debate, which has recently intensified,” wrote University of Queensland geneticist Brendan Zietsch and Pekka Santtila of Finland’s Abo Akedemi University in a Sept. 3 Animal Behavior article. “These results challenge the byproduct theory of female orgasm.”


While the male orgasm is, in evolutionary and practical terms, a fairly straightforward thing — it makes men want to have sex more often, thus continuing their lineage, and is achieved with ease — the female orgasm is a far trickier beast.

Unlike male orgasm, which is found across the primate spectrum, female orgasm has skipped some species. (Lady gibbons, for example, are out of luck.) In humans, men are far more likely to experience orgasm than women, of whom one in 10 don’t ever experience it.

That imbalance runs contrary to traditional explanations of female orgasm: that it strengthens bonds between mates and thus improves the care received by their children, or that the ability to elicit orgasm indicates a male’s virility, or that underlying physiological processes somehow improve reproductive success.

...Zietsch and Santtila devised a test. They surveyed 1,803 pairs of opposite-sex twins and 2,287 pairs of same-sex twins, asking them how often and how easily they reached orgasm. If female orgasm is evolutionarily connected to male, opposite-sex twins should have similar orgasmic function.

But that’s not what they found. Instead, while orgasmic function was genetically shared in same-sex twins — brother tended to share function with brother, or sister with sister — the relationship vanished in opposite-sex twins, though both share the same amount of genetic material. The underlying genetics, and thus the underlying evolutionary pressures, thus appear to differ.

“This does not support the hypothesis that female orgasm is maintained only as a byproduct of selection on the male orgasm,” wrote Zietsch and Santtila.

However, the researchers warn that their findings aren’t yet definitive. Self-reported surveys aren’t methodologically airtight, and a recent Journal of Sexual Medicine study by Zietsch “found near-zero correlations between women’s orgasm rates and 19 other evolutionarily relevant traits.”

Those findings contradict the latest study, and suggest female orgasm might be a byproduct after all. It might also have been evolutionarily important to humanity’s ancestors, but irrelevant now.

“The evolutionary basis of female orgasm is both important and unknown,” wrote Zietsch and Santtila. “Much more work needs to be done.” _Wired
Al Fin orgasmologists feel that much of mainstream orgasmic research is far off-track, pursuing grant money without the intent of actually learning anything. It is another example of how the "publish or perish" ethic corrupts academia. This is a shame, and tends to give all of science a bad name.

Unfortunately, the "dumbing down" of society extends all the way into the top levels of academia, the media, government, and commerce. Fortunately, those of us willing to disregard official societal sanction can proceed to unravel the profound mysteries of life -- as long as we keep relatively quiet about what we discover.

Stay tuned.

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01 September 2011

2011 Bubble Baba River Race Drew Over 800 Participants

AmusingPlanet
More than 800 people rode inflatable sex dolls down Vuoksa river rapids, 90 km from St Petersburg, at the ninth annual Bubble Baba Challenge 2011 - a bizarre but popular Russian race event. Anyone over 16, and of either sex, is allowed to take part in the competition. All they are required to do is swim in the complicated rapids of the Vuoksa river near St. Petersburg, on a plastic inflatable sex doll in a race that last little more than three minutes.

The word "baba" is Russian for "peasant woman," but is also a crude term with sexual connotations _AmusingPlanet


It sounds like good, clean, family fun to Al Fin sexologists. Consider organising a similar event in your area. Don't let the citizens of St. Petersburg have all the fun.

More photos of the 2011 Bubble Baba Challenge

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