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29 May 2012

Ah Yes. That's It. Yes. oh . . . Oh . . . OH!!!

Finding the Ways to Female Pleasure

Different women may travel somewhat different paths to achieving their ultimate sexual pleasure. The path begins with basic health and self esteem, and will be more ore less accessible depending upon the state of receptivity. That will vary by time of the month, basic physical comfort and satiety levels, a sense of physical safety, and more. Receptivity is influenced by degree of physical and emotional attraction, by chemical intoxicants, or by other influences on the brain -- particularly the pre-frontal lobes (judgment and decision-making) and the pleasure centres of the brain.

But once a couple proceeds past the preliminaries, and are committed to the act, a knowledge of the basic anatomy of erogenous areas can prove immensely facilitating.

There are a number of erogenous areas which elevate the levels of female sexual excitement when properly stimulated at the right time. Kissing the lips and fondling the breasts stimulates two very powerful erogenous areas, and helps to direct blood flow to the pelvic erogenous areas, pictured below.

The clitoris is the best known female pelvic erotic trigger, and the easiest to find right away. The "U-spot" around the urethral opening is much less well known, but in certain women it can open the gate to orgasms not accessible otherwise. The same is true for the "G-spot," located along the mid-anterior wall of the vagina, at about the level of the bladder sphincter. The "A-spot" is further back on the anterior vagina, toward the cervix. The cervix itself -- and attached structures -- can also be considered an erogenous area for many women. Stimulation of both the A-spot and the cervix requires deeper penetration as opposed to stimulation of the more superficial erogenous centres.

The trick to being a great lover of women, is understanding each phase of female sexual attraction and arousal, and stimulating the appropriate erogenous zones of the woman's mind and body for the particular stage of seduction. The approach to pleasing a woman will necessarily be different for each woman. If you have found this not to be the case, than it is likely that you are being deceived by both the women involved and by your own narcissistic nature.

Once you reach the stage of genital contact and penetration, it is important to visualise what is taking place on the inside, in places where the sun and other sources of illumination are unlikely to shine.

By studying the anatomy of intercourse, as well as the anatomy of the female erogenous areas, one should be capable of modifying one's approach in response to how the woman is responding to the situation as a whole.

A woman may achieve intense orgasm by using a vibrator or other sexual utensil. But a vibrator does not satisfy the multiple levels of sexual needs and desires which a woman is likely to have. Of course, neither do most men. But that is a situation which we hope to remedy, at least for the most insightful readers of the Al Fin blogs.


More reading:

Clitoris, G spot, U spot, A spot . . .

Female erogenous zones in general

Does the female G spot exist for every woman?

The female is a subtle and highly variable animal. Make broad and blanket assumptions at your own peril.


27 May 2012

A Dynamic Sexuality: From Father to Fatherette

“I remember wearing my mom’s clothes and makeup, very secretly, not telling anybody,” Crecelius said. From a young age, Crecelius identified more with being a female, but hid behind a male persona.

“When I was 17, I was working my first part-time job at a TV station as a floor cameraman and the person in charge said to me, ‘You know, you walk like a queer.’ And I thought I was hiding who I was, and I wasn’t,” he said.

About 40 years later, a revelation:
“I had a kidney stone and we’re in the emergency room,” Crecelius said. “The nurse is reading the ultrasound and says, ‘Huh, this says you’re a female’.”

It turns out Steve was born intersex, meaning he has both male and female parts. The diagnosis was a shock, but also a relief. _KDVR
People who have both male and female sexual organs are hermaphrodites. In Steve's case, his male organs dictated his physical appearance, and his socially assigned gender identity. But on the inside, Steve felt more like a female. He juggled those feelings all his life -- getting married, having six children, embarking on a successful photography career, etc. -- until that fateful diagnostic report revealed the biological underpinnings of his mixed sexual identity.

His wife and children have accepted the changeover to female identity, and he even sleeps in the same bed with his wife -- still soulmates, it seems.

Sexuality is complex and to a certain degree, plastic. Someday we will be able to change genders as easily as changing hair colours.

In the meantime, it wouldn't hurt to be a bit more open-minded, both with ourselves and with others. So when your wife of 20 years turns to you and says, "Honey, make me a lesbian!" you will at least count to ten before asking her what's on her mind.


02 May 2012

Sex Tourism in the Future: Sex Robots vs Real Sex

New Zealand's Ian Yeoman and Michelle Mars stirred up a small hornet's nest with their scholarly paper, "Robots, Men, and Sex Tourism," published in Futures. Here is the abstract and highlights:
In 2050, Amsterdam's red light district will all be about android prostitutes who are clean of sexual transmitted infections (STIs), not smuggled in from Eastern Europe and forced into slavery, the city council will have direct control over android sex workers controlling prices, hours of operations and sexual services. This paper presents a futuristic scenario about sex tourism, discusses the drivers of change and the implications for the future. The paper pushes plausibility to the limit as boundaries of science fiction and fact become blurred in the ever increasing world of technology, consumption and humanity, a paradigm known as liminality.


► Having sex with a robot is the future of sex tourism in Amsterdam. ► Why? ► Human trafficking, sexual transmitted diseases, beauty and physical perfection, pleasure for sex toys, emotional connection to robots and the importance of sex in Amsterdam are all driving forces. ► Is the scenario feasible? ► Virtual sex, changing behaviours and what is science fiction and reality is a blurred paradigm of liminality. _Robots Men and Sex Tourism
Marina Adshade of BigThink riffs off the Futures paper, suggesting that the authors did not think the issue through clearly enough:
There are three reasons, however, that people travel to buy sex on a foreign market that would no longer apply in futuristic android sex markets.

The first is that people are ashamed of their behavior and therefore remove themselves from their own community so that they can buy sex in the anonymity of a foreign market.

If sex with androids is “guilt-free,” as the authors claim, I am not sure why anyone would need to travel to a foreign market to buy it.

The second is that foreign sex markets provide cheaper services than their home markets in developed economies. This is particularly true in countries in which poverty ensures a perpetual supply of desperate men and women.

Android sex workers will presumably flow across borders far more easily than human sex workers, implying that the price of their services should be similar worldwide.

The final reason why people travel for sex is they demand services that domestic sex workers are unwilling to provide at any price level. Sex with children, for example, is difficult to buy in the developed world, as is sex that involves a great deal of violence.

Whether or not governments in the developed world would permit the development of pre-pubescent androids for the sex market is a topic that I suspect would generate a great deal of debate. If they did, however, the desire to travel specifically for that service would disappear. _BigThink
Adshade goes on to point out that women are already having sex with electronic devices on a regular basis, without shaking the foundations of society to its core. But she admits that the prostitution and travel sex industries are likely to be adversely affected when realistic sex androids become available on a large, ubiquitous scale. Chris Mims has a short, derivative piece on this topic in Technology Review, which tells one more about the broad level of interest in this topic than anything useful about the future of android sex. If Marina Adshade is correct that the authors of the "Futures" piece were missing the point of android sex, one would be doubly correct by leveling the same criticism at Chris Mims.

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